Update: 'I'm not her butler, babysitter, or handyman. I'm her freaking brother': Family saga unravels on Reddit, brother stands strong on his position

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    Joint - r/r/Entitled People Posted by u/No-Ride-Throwaway 14 hours ago My sister called me demanding I take my posts down. Now she's more upset than ever to know how far it's spread
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    Font - Having a family that knows about your Reddit account has it's disadvantages. Yesterday my sister called me after I got off work to ask me if comments are still coming in. She said she cannot bear the negativity of looking at them herself because the comments are all so hurtful towards her. So I was brutally honest. At least ten comments are still coming in daily, and most of them more or less say the same things about her.
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    Font - She started crying and demanding I delete my Reddit posts. But I refused and told her she can cry to anyone she wants. But the posts stay up because they are my assurance she won't try to treat me like crap anymore. After all, she literally felt like my life should revolve around hers, didn't pay me the babysitting money she was supposed to and pocketed it for herself, and forced me to be the constant babysitter on last year's family vacation so I had pretty much no fun the entire time. I
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    Font - Then when I mentioned the posts have already spread to other websites because I was asked a couple of times to let an article be made about my situation. And there are some videos that were read as well. My sister shrieked hearing that and hung up.
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    Font - My parents then called me begging I take the posts down. I've refused, and stated that I only did this because they didn't stick up for me. This would have never happened if they'd told my sister to treat me like an equal and not a servant. I'm not her butler, babysitter, or handyman. I'm her freaking brother, and a grown ass man! Wouldn't they be tired of this crap in my shoes too?
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    Font - They agreed, but still begged I take the posts down. I refused, and said that I'll keep making more if they don't start sticking up for me more when my sister comes crying to them. Let her clean up her own messes. Because all the enabling of her led to this. I didn't father those kids.
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    Font - I've got a life of my own, a career I'm still new to, and hopefully soon enough a girlfriend as there's someone I want to ask out. I'm moving my life forward, and I won't be held back. They can either step out of my way, or keep trying to enable my sister. But I assured them that the latter would end badly for them. The only way this posting on Reddit will stop, is if the drama stops. I've kept things anonymous, and I've got a right to vent my very valid frustrations.
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    Font - Well that left my mother crying, my father just went silent, and I said tears don't move me. They know what it'll take to end this, and that's to stop enabling my sister. Well my sister called me again to yell at me that our parents have told her they aren't dealing with this anymore, and to figure it out herself. Oh, and they told her to be nicer to me too. I just pictured her eye twitching as she internally screamed after hearing that. "Be nice to my kid brother? What is this? Do I look
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    Font - Yeah I was that sarcastic to her. But it left her crying too when I hung up. My brother in law called me later to get my side of the story. He was mad I'm still posting and made his wife cry. But I explained everything to him, and he said he'd have another talk with my sister.
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    Font - I'm hoping this drama finally ends here. But the family vacation is still on for late June. I've already booked my room and put in for a day off work so we can all leave on a Friday. My room is also not near the ones my parents, sister, BIL and nephews will be using. In fact, it's not even on the same floor. And when we go to the coast, when it's not a family activity, I'm going to go where I want and do what I want. And you can bet I'm gonna tour those art galleries, pig out on local foo
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    Font - idontthinksoyo . 13 hr. ago I've been following the drama love the updates and love you sticking up for yourself
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    Font - myironlions 7 hr. ago Yes, this has been a beautiful saga, and I'm glad OP stood up for himself and refused to let himself be cowed into being his family's unpaid factotum. Completely aside from whether the sister is and has been awful to him ... anyone else worried about the fact that BIL just refused to get involved and hid at work, only to plead ignorance later when he had no choice but to pay attention? And sister was hoarding the babysitting money and paid OP back from her own "savin
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    Font - Something isn't working for this family with the triplets. Instead of enabling her using OP and behaving like a brat, someone (ahem, looking at OP's parents here) should have been asking how the family was coping long before all this happened, as soon as it became evident that the sister and BIL were constantly in "evade and escape" mode.
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    Font - Useful Experience423 3 hr. ago Agree completely. I've been following since the beginning and I love how OP has finally put his foot down - hard! I do have the tiniest smidge of sympathy for the Sis though; it can't be easy raising triplets when you've been raised to be an entitled brat yourself and your husband acts like an ostrich. She's had no decent parenting role models at all.
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    Font - FitOrFat-1999. 4 hr. ago Yeah, both sister and BIL are going to have to completely overhaul kid care and they really don't want to do it. I get that it may be hard to find a babysitter willing and able to wrangle 7 year old triplets, but sister just doesn't want to face the reality that the free ride is over and she was wrong to do it in the first place. And it sounds like sis and BIL need to work on their own relationship too. The money dynamics are ...strange.
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    Font - cathartic_robot. 4 hr. ago Are we going to talk about how she was nervous as shit around her husband after that? OP said she was "cowed". Why was she socking away money?
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    Font - iamacraftyhooker. 3 hr. ago It sounds like she has a separate savings account and there is nothing else in the story to indicate abuse. I think it's more likely that the husband is the only person she actually respects, so it actually hurts when he disagrees with her and gets upset with her actions. She doesn't seem to respect the rest of her family, so when they disagree it holds no weight. She places her opinion at a higher value than her family, but her husband's opinion has equal valu

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