Update: 'I'm not her butler, babysitter, or handyman. I'm her freaking brother': Family saga unravels on Reddit, brother stands strong on his position

Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor

Jun 10, 2023 5:00 PM EDT

Family trauma is a very real thing. You could have the most loving family in the world where you're all besties and STILL have family trauma. That's basically what the entire plot of Disney's Encanto is about. We all have our own inner demons and that just happen to surface around the people you feel most comfortable around—often times that is your family. However, it's 2023 and we are all open about working on our mental health and taking therapy seriously, but that also includes working on the mental health between you and your family—maybe even doing family therapy together.

Recently, a family saga has been unraveling on Reddit. It started with this post of a brother asking if he was in the wrong for booking a separate room during the family vacation, because last time he was forced to be the babysitter for his older sister's triplets. Now, he may be the youngest sibling, but he is a grown adult man, so being forced to be his sister's butler for no pay is beyond insulting and hurtful. Plus, that is his vacation too and he'd like to actually do vacation stuff for it rather than be the family butler.

The original post became a hit on Reddit and he was deemed "Not the A-Hole." In fact, many Redditors shine light on how awful his sister is treating him and how unsupportive his parents are. His family knows about his Reddit account and saw the post and the comments it gathered. Luckily, it made them see the light, for the most part. He followed up the post with another one saying his parents apologized, but his sister did not, "at least not at first." You can see that post here. "My sister dug her heels in, blamed me, and then doubled down on her belief my life should circle around hers," he writes. "I told her that was the most narcissistic and entitled thing she's ever said about me." Eventually, his brother-in-law aka his sister's husband, got involved and talked to her and found out that she was pocketing the babysitting money he was giving her to give to her brother. So then that became another drama bomb in the family saga. Eventually, his sister, BIL, and parents all sat down and showered him in apologies and promised to do better.

Cue the most recent addition to the saga, his family is now begging him to take down the Reddit posts since they have all talked it through and the hurtful comments are really putting a dark shadow over the family. However, the OP has kept everything completely anonymous and feels he has the right to vent to strangers on the internet to get some unbiased opinions—plus, it's proven to have been a helpful key in solving this family drama and he wants to make sure they don't fall into being mistreated by his family ever again. See how it's lately been unfolding below!